You and me.

When two “things” are connected, they stabilise each other.

That’s how two people can whirl and spin when they dance together.

That’s how water, when turning an open glass of water upside down, stays in the glass when the glass is upside down.

That’s anyone can “sabilise” themselves :

1. by focusing their attention on something that focuses back at them.

2. by focusing their attention on someone who focuses right back at them.

3. by focusing themselves, provided “themselves” focuses right back at them;

In this way, anyone can “move” in a stable way; it’s a “center of gravity”.

The “firmness” in the expression “firm as a rock” does not come from its rigidity, but from it’s stability, which, in the case of people, is only a question of balance.

Balance which is achieved by synchronising different influences in harmony.

So.

If YOU are alone, with no one to talk to, if YOU (the person reading this, which could be members of my familly, my friends, which also includes me if I read it later, which includes anyone who can read this).

If YOU are having trouble focusing and feel like your going to fall, like you don’t have it “together”.

If YOU are having trouble keeping your balance, whether in physical movement, emotionally, or in threads of thouhgt.

If you feel like you’re going to “fall” :

The “way” to settle down is to focus on something which focuses right back at you.

For example, if you focus on your breathing, after a while, in your “awareness”, which is what you focus on, there only is your breathing and your awareness.

For example, when you aim with a bow and arrow at a target, you focus so intently that every disappears from your awareness, in that moment, there “is” only you, the arrow, and the target. Everything else is irrelevant and ignored.

Why is this important?

Because if I want to talk to someone, that “communication” needs to be balanced, otherwise it causes instability.

So if I want to talk to “you” (as defined earlier at the beginning of this page), “we” (you and me) need to be focusing on the same thing.

Whatever is happening elsewhere does not matter as long as we’re focused, troubles arise because other things interfere. It’s not the other way round.

In the same way as when you are walking a tight rope, or climbing a cliff, looking down will influence you if you are afraid of heights.

In the same way as when you are playing tennis in front of a crow, listening to that crowd will interfere.

Which is why great tennis players, when playing in Wimbledon or Rolland Gaross, in front of thousands of people AND in front of TV cameras and so on, don’t loose their cool.

When they play that game, these tennis stars are focused only on the game and nothing else. Otherwise, they couldn’t give it the best they got.

When two tennis players are playing tennis, whether in a family owned tennis court or at Wimbledon, it’s the same game for them, the rest doesn’t matter to them while they play because they are able to focus, concentrate so much that they don’t let anything else influence them.

Some times this is easy, some times it’s hard.

What makes it easy or hard?

The objective, the aim, the purpose, the reason “why” you’re playing that game. The “stakes”.

If you’re playing for your life, if losing a tennis match means you will die because you have bet your life on it, those are high stakes.

If you’re playing with a friend or with members of your family, if you’re playing with no “stakes”, if you’re playing without any kind of “money” being involved, and you know there’s nothing to lose, you can just play and have fun.

High stakes make it difficult, and this can only be done if you’re good at what you do, if you’ve trained hard.

Low stakes make it easy, because you got nothing to lose, you relax and have fun because you know that whether you win or lose doesn’t matter, no one cares.

You feel me? Do you understand what I’m saying?

Does what I just wrote make sense or not? Can you see why this is true?

Now.

Why am I saying this?

I’ll tell “you” even though no one asked me.

Because this game that I’m playing has got very very very high stakes, because “you” are part of those stakes. Because whether I win or lose, “you” are part of what will be lost if I lose, because “you” are a part of me, whether you’re my sister, my brother, my parents, my cousins, my friends, my fellows or even if “you” are Inzababa reading these words tomorrow or in 2 years.

So if “you” and “I” don’t manage to focus, if we don’t manage to stabilise this communication, if we are not able to play for fun rather than for money, it’s making the “game” real tough for me.

I can’t talk to anyone outside of myself (like anyone reading this) unless we both focus and talk to each other.

Because “you” is undefined here, because “you” could be anyone at all reading this, including other people like my family or someone who’s heard of me, or someone who’s seen me, or talked to me for 2 minutes, whoever “you” are needs to focus on this text, these words, for me to “maintain” a stable relationship that matters.

Which, for me, writing this now, can only be done if I focus on myself for now, if I hold on to myself, if only because in this specific process, that’s all there is to focus on.

Since no one “here” is talking except me…

It’s not a problem as long as I stay focused, what I’m trying to say though, is that what I said, what I just wrote is important, because if it is true, it will help “you” (whoever you are).

So what exactly is it that I am saying?

I’m saying love, darling, mate, my friend, whoever wants too :

Let’s dance, pump the sound up and let’s just dance, for the fun of it, together 🙂

You and me, right now, forget everything and let’s just dance for a bit, that’s all it takes 🙂


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